Deciding whether to file for divorce is an intensely personal determination that only you can make. While it can be helpful to solicit advice from family and friends, you ultimately must make the decision personally. What is right for your sibling or your best friend may not be right for you. This also is not a decision that you should make quickly. Give yourself some time to fully consider the various factors that you should take into account when making decisions about divorce.
First, consider whether your desire to get divorced is based on rational reasons or raw emotions. Are you simply angry or upset with your spouse, or have you been considering divorce for a long period of time? Have you already attempted to repair the problems with your marriage, or are you just reacting to something that your spouse has done or said that has hurt you? Take some time to determine whether you truly believe that you would better off on your own, or if you still have hope for your marriage.
Next, ask yourself whether you are staying in your marriage solely for the sake of your children. The reality is that your child is smarter than you think, and probably can tell that your relationship with your spouse is troubled. Listening to you and your spouse fight on a regular basis is not healthy for your child. It teaches your child that dysfunction in your marriage is part of a normal relationship, which is not exactly the healthiest of lessons. At the end of the day, your child will recover from divorce, and hopefully learn the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Just because you do not have a functional marriage, doesn’t mean that you can’t have a functional and healthy coparenting relationship.
Determining whether to file for divorce can be a very complex decision to make, so you will need to consult a New Jersey family law attorney about your rights and obligations under New Jersey law. We are here to help you make the decisions in your case that will best benefit you and your family in your divorce or related legal matter. We are here to answer your questions, ease your mind, and help guide you through what is likely to be a difficult proceeding. At Argentino Family Law & Child Advocacy, LLC, we handle many legal matters that relate to families and children. Contact our office today and see how we can assist you with your New Jersey divorce case.