Two Sides Of The Story

Storm is on it’s way.  I’m going nuts at the office trying to prep for the storm and get home to the babysitter to take over care of my three kids.

9 simple words via text made me breathe a sigh of relief.  My twins’ coparent (my ex), is on her way to the grocery store after work.  She texts my spouse and me and simply asks “do you guys need anything from the grocery store?”

Milk, bread, eggs.

3 essential items.

0 extra minutes of her time at the store.

$11 sent from me via venmo.

Result = priceless.

Respect, thoughtfulness, what goes around comes around…

I’ve been in the car for an hour and a half.  I JUST want to get to my kids and get them home and snuggle.  Another snow storm is coming and everyone is driving like the world is coming to an end.  The grocery store is going to be a nightmare but I better stop before I get the kids and not make them go out in this twice if there’s no need.  And it’s SO MUCH easier to run in and run out without having to drag them around after they’ve already spent their whole day at school and with the babysitter.

“Do you guys need anything from the grocery store?”

I send a quick text letting them know I’ll be a little bit late. 

It only makes sense to grab anything they need too instead of having them stay with the kids while I shop and then they’d go out once I’ve picked the kids up. 

They only need a couple of items, it’s not like it’s going to make this run any more difficult.  Plus, then they actually get to spend a little bit of time with the kids before we all get snowed in.  Sometimes a few minutes is all it takes, and everyone feels good and happy and doesn’t miss each other so much.  

The groceries may not be for the kids, but the people who help take care of them are pretty important players too.  Taking care of each other has made all the difference in the world.


At Argentino Family Law & Child Advocacy, LLC, we don’t only litigate or collaborate in an attorney capacity, we also serve as mediators and parent coordinators to help mend or bridge the gap in the working relationship between coparents.  Contact our office today to see how we can help your family.

Jersey Adventurer; Blog #2

I am an aspiring helicopter pilot. I currently have about 50 hours of flight time spread out over the past 13 years. My strange and sporadic path to obtaining my pilots license has been plagued by the cost-prohibitive nature of the beast (an hour of flight time costs approximately $300 per hour) as well as a simple lack of time (I worked full time while attending college and law school). However, I am now getting to a point in my life where I can return to my true love. As I look forward I like to reminisce about the flights I have taken purely for fun.

 One such flight was in October 2016. My husband (Anthony), my dad, and I went to Platinum Helicopters at Princeton Municipal Airport. I rented a Robinson R44 (a 4 seater) and reserved time with a licensed instructor (as I am only a student pilot). We charted a course to do some sightseeing along the cost; specifically, from Long Branch (my favorite place in the entire world), down to Asbury Park (a close second). We took off from Princeton and headed east. About 20 minutes later, we were 1,500 feet above Long Branch. Visibility was so clear that we could clearly see the New York City skyline off in the distance.    Continue reading “Jersey Adventurer; Blog #2”

Mudarse Afuera Del Estado: Lo Que Los Padres de Nueva Jersey Deben Saber

La ley de Nueva Jersey establece que cuando la Corte tiene jurisdicción sobre la custodia y el apoyo de los niños de padres divorciados, separados o que viven separados, los niños no pueden mudarse del estado sin el consentimiento de los niños (si son de edad adecuada) o sin el consentimiento de los dos padres. Si uno de los padres se opone a que los niños se muden de Nueva Jersey, cualquiera de los padres puede presentar una aplicación ante de la Corte para solicitar una orden que permita o prohíba la reubicación. El propósito de la ley es preservar los derechos de los padres que no tienen custodia, así como mantener y desarrollar la relación entre el padre que no tiene custodia y los niños. La Corte ha reconocido que la reubicación de niños del estado puede afectar gravemente los derechos de visita del padre que no tiene la custodia.

Las cortes siguen las normas establecidas en Baures v. Lewis y O’Connor v. O’Connor durante los últimos dieciséis años. Baures, supra, 167 N.J. 91 (2001); O’Connor, supra, 349 N.J. Super. 381 (App. Div. 2002). La decisión de Baures y O’Connor resultó en una prueba de dos puntas. La primera punta hico necesario que la Corte determinar el verdadero acuerdo de custodia física. Podría haber un cierto acuerdo de custodia compartida, o, alternativamente, podría haber un arreglo donde un padre se designa como el padre de residencia primaria (PPR) y el otro padre es designa como el padre de residencia alterna (PAR). La segunda punta requiere que la corte analice la disputa basada en el acuerdo de custodia. En los casos con custodia física compartida, la corte evaluaría lo que será mejor para el niño. En los casos en que existe un arreglo de PPR y PAR, la Corte determinará si el PPR hace la petición de buena fe y si la reubicación haría daño al interés del niño. Este estándar viene de la investigación de ciencias sociales antiguas que pretendía que el interés de un niño estaba atado al bienestar del PPR.

Las cortes adoptaron un nuevo estándar en agosto de 2017 cuando La Corte Suprema de Nueva Jersey decidió el caso de Bisbing v. Bisbing. 2017 N.J. Lexis 830. La Corte reconoció que la ciencia social detrás de la decisión de Baures ya no era universalmente cierta, y como tal, descubrió que independientemente del acuerdo de custodia, las cortes deben decidir las disputas de reubicación al decidir qué es lo mejor para el niño. Esto incluye pero no se limita a losconocimientos de los dos padres, así como los factores estatutarios bajo de N.J.S.A. 9:2-4, que son los siguientes:

* La capacidad de los padres para ponerse de acuerdo, comunicarse y cooperar en materia relacionada con el niño;

* La disposición de los padres a aceptar la custodia y cualquier historial de falta de voluntad para permitir el tiempo de crianza no se basa en el abuso justificado;

* La interacción y relación del niño con sus padres y hermanos;

* La historia de la violencia doméstica, si la hay;

* La seguridad del niño y la seguridad de cualquiera de los padres del abuso físico del otro padre;

* La preferencia del niño cuando tiene suficiente edad y capacidad para razonar a fin de formar una decisión inteligente;

* Las necesidades del niño;

* La estabilidad del ambiente de casa ofrecido;

* La calidad y la continuidad de la educación del niño;

* La aptitud de los padres; la proximidad geográfica de las casas de los padres;

* El alcance y la calidad del tiempo pasado con el niño antes o después de la separación;

* Las responsabilidades laborales de los padres; y

* La edad y el número de niños

Jersey Adventurer; Blog #1 

On October 7, 2017, my husband and I ventured into the woods of West Milford to find an abandoned military jet.  We had GPS coordinates (41.077076, -74.396896) and a bird’s eye view picture of the area courtesy of Google maps.  We parked at the end of a dead-end road and ventured into woods where woodland trails gave way to mud with the consistency of quicksand and tar.  About 500 feet in, we came upon the skeletal remains Lockheed T2V-1.  You might be wondering why there is an abandoned airplane in the middle of the woods in northern Passaic County. 


Circa 1962, this particular Lockheed T2V-1 took off from Floyd Bennett Field in Brooklyn for a training exercise. The aircraft experienced trouble over New Jersey.  The two occupants attempted the eject from the aircraft but the ejection mechanisms failed, thereby trapping the two occupants inside.  The men cash landed in the middle of the woods, but suffered only minor injuries.  The Navy later removed the aircraft’s engine.  The remainder of the aircraft still lays decaying in the elements more than 55 years later.   


Hikers and adventurers have stripped the aircraft of any and all removable parts, such as its instruments.  More than 5 decades of weather wear and tear has erased all of the paint and insignia from the fuselage.  The nose of the aircraft lays 50 feet south east of the main wreckage, apparently dragged there by overly-ambitious, unsuccessul thieves.  The rivets holding the body panels together showcase the craftsmanship that went into building this generations-old aircraft. 

I would recommend visiting this site to anyone who enjoys hiking, aviation, or military history.  The area around the plane is riddled with shoes that came right off of unlucky visitors due to the unforgiving mud, so I recommend double checking your laces before you stray off the main road. 




3 year marriage could warrant open durational (long term) alimony!

In Friel v. Braun-Friel, a recent unpublished decision of the Appellate Division (March 2, 2018), the Appellate Court remanded the matter back to the trial court for a review of the prior decision.

The parties in this case were separated after less than 3 years of marriage. The primary issue was alimony because the Defendant became disabled just after the parties’ marriage and was unable to return to work, rendering her medically and financially dependent upon Plaintiff.

The alimony statute (NJSA 2A:34-23) states that absent exceptional circumstances, an alimony term should not exceed the length of the marriage.

Here, the trial court found that there were exceptional circumstances but ordered only 2 years of alimony at $130/week. The appellate division determined that despite finding exceptional circumstances, the trial court failed to explain why it limited alimony to only 2 years. The appellate division also determined that the trial court should not have considered Defendant’s receipt of SSDI benefits when she had not been approved for same at the time of trial.

This appellate decision reiterates the need for trial courts to give comprehensive and thoughtful decisions supporting their rulings.

Have you had a case where the contested ruling was not supported by a detailed and thoughtful decision? There’s a limited time for reconsideration or appeal of an Order or Judgment. Contact Argentino Family Law & Child Advocacy, LLC now to set up a case assessment to consult with our attorneys about the possible remedies you may have.